family - blood over water

Family is your blood born. Family is also who you choose.

Chose your associations wisely.

Old Story - 2 am rescue mission (in progress)

I was 16.....

Personal View - Religion (in progress)

Religion is dangerous if used improperly.

It is as helpful as it can be manipulative.

I cannot say to the fact if there is or is not a God. Truly, no one really can, not even the Pope. But Faith, and believe, are powerful things that compel people.

All we have to go on is our gut, our intelligence, and common sense.

I'm not telling you to dismiss religion - just consider it carefully. If it doesn't do more than serve their own self interests, be doubly sure it's something you really want to get involved with.

Personal View - Transgender Issues

There seems to this stigma, probably like what the homosexual community, religiouos communiyt, so  many communities have had to overcome, that issues affecting one sect of our community also can (and likely will) effect others in some form or fashion.

Basically, see my post that people are people, no matter what their birth,, ethnicity, background etc and you'll know where I'm going with this.

love

it comes in many forms, shapes, sizes, colors.

be social

because that's the world we live in.

make those skills happen. Work on them. own them.

Change your Oil - Responsibilities.

Putting away clothes, changing your oil, doing your taxes, finding your own place, budgeting your finances.....

that is all for today..... that should tell you about the day I'm having.....

Clean your room.....

Because the feeling of self sufficiency starts with organizing your own space.....

Late Bloomer

I recall being told that John Kirtland, my Uncle Jack, was a late bloomer. He was late to marry, or have relationships in his life. It was suppose to make me more comfortable to the fact that, at the time, I had not dated very much. There were many reasons - both personal and social obsticals both in and out of my control. But primarily, I was career driven. I knew what I wanted to do, and didn't make time for things like dating and friends. Perhaps I should have, but I didn't have it in me.

It's not until about 28 when things in my social life, especially with dating, really started to turn around. Part of it was confidence. Part of it was having less of an attachment to my attempts at procuring dates or relationships.

Between Sept. 2014 - 2015, I managed to have 4 girlfriends of varying commitment - after almost five years since my last. After my last relationship ended, it's only taken me 7 months to procure at least one new partner, while another is on the cusp of formulating as well. This string of luck did not come without commitment to achieving the goal of having new, fresh relationships in my life. I did not wait around for them, I pursued them. Which brings me to one of our most common themes of this blog....

Go after what you want.

Very rarely will opportunity just fall in your lap. Through your actions will you create opportunity. All it could take is 20 seconds of insane courage to change your life.

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I'm a person who considers myself a late bloomer - because I usually take a long time to move on things, to change things, or to realize what the best move for me is. A lot of this come from lack of confidence. I grew up not liking myself for a long time, and not being like everyone else I hung out with, so I hampered myself in a lot of ways - sabotaged myself. And I paid for it in a lot of ways.

However, rushing into things headfirst without thought can also be dangerous.

I take time to process things. I take the time to make sure that what I want to do is the best course of action, and then I make that happen. I've just gotten better of actually committing to it, and going about accomplishing it.