This is an archive for all the Zweig and Kirtland children.

If you are reading this, you are old enough to comprehend what you are about to read. Perahps your folks told you about this blog, or maybe I did.

I never really kept a steady journal throughout the years.

I don't plan, at the time that I write this, to have children of my own.

I wanted to have a way to pass on my experience to you. Because there will come a time in your life that you feel alone. Like no one understands you. And maybe, just maybe, you'll find some solace in this blog.

I've been planning on writing something like this for years. Though I originally intended it as a book back in the day - it makes more sense to do it like this. It won't be highly refined. There's no over arching story. It will be me, in a pretty raw form, as I try to pass on lessons of my own life onto you.

There won't be a particular order for the topics I post. Some will come spur of the moment. Others I'll have planned to make.

Some will be a few sentences, others will be a page or two long.

Just know, I make this out of love. 

Jeffrey Zweig, II

be afraid of standing still - remain learning and grow

The title pretty much sums it up......

Sex

It is messy, awesome, and imperfect.

Revel in the unique experiences you will have.

Porn is a fantasy - don't expect that in your everyday life.

take chances

Nothing will be gained by not doing so.....

finding a place to live

one of the best independent, life changing experiences you can do.....

budgeting your finances.....

because you need to realize the equivalent exchanges of these things.....

Strange Relationships - Non-Monogamous

Some people would consider the relationships I've held to be "strange" because they are holding up to the monogamous, Christian light that most in our country are so familiar with.

I've never been one to take the road most traveled as it goes to personal decisions that I've made in my life, and you should do the same.

I don't let society define my relationships with others. You should define them for yourself, if they even really need definition!

Set your social rules and stick to them.

As you get older, you're going to have to establish a set of social rules for yourself. Things like what you will and won't tolerate from the general population, friends, partners, family (chosen or otherwise).

No one should tell you what YOUR rules should and shouldn't be, but learn from others, and be ready and willing to change as you see fit.

An examples of the rules is "not chasing people who don't seem interested in you". Interaction is give and take, and if you are the only one giving, then you may want to reconsider if pursuit of them is worth the time and effort. Only you, in the end, can be sure of this.

More important than setting these rules, is sticking to them. At least long enough to know that the rules you have set work for you a majority of the time.

You'll gain this vital knowledge primarily through experience. As the saying goes "if you never have tried it. how do you know you like it?"

Obviously, there are some things you should never try, like using drugs injected by needle (unless prescribed by a doctor or the like.)

Anyway, I hope you get my point.

Birthday 30

The Birthday celebrations this year was ongoing.

This weekend my even was spent with my two partners who surprised me with some sexual and BDSM awesomeness.